Monday, 26 September 2016

Taking the leap

Things I've always wanted to do that seem so impossible to do;

Travel the world
I'm an adventurous woman. The thrill of what could be around the next turn always gets me. If I could I'd be a work nomad. Become an African woman rolling stone. No moss on me baby, no moss. Financial constraints have kept me limited to exploring Ghana. Which is super cool especially because I'm always up for attending church funerals that take place outside of Accra. This way I've managed to see many of the regions in Ghana for free ๐Ÿ˜‰and eat of their cuisine.
Now I'd like to see Morocco to try an authentic tagine, pretend I'm in the Casablanca movie.
I'd like to see Zanzibar because the name sounds poetic and exotic. It makes me want to go skinny dipping in broad daylight.
I'd like to see and eat Thailand. I hear the street food is amazing.
I'd like to see and shop watches in Switzerland.
Swallow raw herrings in the Netherlands.
Eat peach cobbler in the American South.
See the sights of New York and if my luck holds attend one of the Queen Bee's concerts.

Write a book 
I've always dreamt of writing a book. Whenever I google how to start writing, the usual answer is to just write. You know free writing and the like. But one day I'll write. Simply because I've accumulated so many gorgeous looking books to write in. The funny thing is that I used to write poetry when I was really young. Who knows maybe I'll be able to capture that spark again.

Become more confident with my driving 
This one is easy because all i need is practice, practice, practice. One day me too I'll overtake somebody while playing really loud music.☺️๐ŸŽถ๐Ÿค“

Learn how to make croissants from scratch 
I saw a YouTube video on it and I was like what???? It was so time consuming and the amount of butter that goes into it is mind boggling. But I'm planning for it seriously. When I'm down to 64 kilos I'll make croissants to celebrate.

What have you ever dreamt of doing? Don't be like me, actually do it!

Thursday, 22 September 2016

Exploding the myth of equating a woman's worth to her fertility

I just read an article on a Ghanaian online newspaper I read quite frequently. A woman had gone with her boyfriend to a pharmacy to purchase abortion pills. After she took one of the five she had been given, she had to go to the hospital because of the severe pain she suffered. While recuperating she left her hospital bed and went to a radio station to talk about her ordeal. The interesting part of this whole thing for me were the comments. She was castigated for making the choice to have an abortion, even the president came in for his share of insults.

I thought it an opportunity to share my thoughts on abortions with respect to Ghanaian women.
Basically abortion is legal in Ghana. A quick perusal through the Criminal Offences Act 1960 confirms this. However the general notion is that abortion in Ghana is illegal. This however doesn't detract from the fact that I am of the opinion that abortion is wrong except for reasons of incest, rape, health concerns and so on. I believe most women would agree with me on that. Contraceptives are widely accessible. Thanks to organisations like Marie Stopes International which have made such drugs very affordable. 
The problem is perception. 
I conducted a mini survey. I found that most women are aware of contraceptives. They are aware they're widely available and nearly free. 
They also believe they would become infertile if they take them. A woman with five children will still be unwilling to take contraceptives because she fears infertility. Therein lies the problem. As women we have been socialized to believe that our worth is directly related to our fertility or fecundity. 
May I suggest that this is an erroneous notion to have?
I believe that in recent times that notion has been disproved over and over. Look around you and see the women achieving so much. Some of them have children but some don't. Yet society is ever ready to point out to them that they still haven't achieved anything because they don't have children.
I believe that the way forward is to disabuse our minds as women that our worth equates to our fertility.
Contraceptives have been proven to work without changing our fertility. Maybe it's time our government and civil society organisations take the time to make more information available to change that perception. I believe the occurrence of abortions would also decline.
In fact in conclusion let me ask o. How do you feed your children if you haven't achieved anything for yourself first? How do you inspire them to achieve greater success?